This past weekend, I was enjoying one of the small julehygge (Christmas coziness) parties I have blessed to participate in this year. They are joyous events where you have popcorn, candy. hot chocolate, homemade cakes and pies, glögg (a hot wine drink) and make julepynt (Christmas decoration) to hang on the tree. It is a good time for talking, laughing and sharing.
I was talking with my friend about New Year's Day and how I will be celebrating it by creating my 2010 Vision Board. She wants to create one too. But she expressed serious doubts about it. When I asked her why, she sad that, for example, she wants a good loving relationship and marriage with a man but she associates romance and marriage with being poor. I asked her why and she said that in Danish culture, Danish men do not romance a woman. it would be considered discriminatory. They expect her to pay for her meals, and they never pull out a chair, open a door or carry a heavy package/move something heavy for her. She sighed and said she longs for a man who would take her to dinner and pay for it.
We had quite a discussion about Danish relationship culture between Danish men and women and Danish men and Non-Danish woman (Danish men DO romance non-Danish women, put on nice clothing, pay for the woman's meals, buy them gifts, give them flowers, open doors, pull out chair, carry/move heavy items etc. because they know they won't get anywhere with a non-Danish if they do not treat her special and romance her).
But besides that, we talked about creating the Vision Board and realizing that is it about HER vision, not about the limitations of culture. Vision has no limits except the ones you put on it.
Romance does not need to mean being poor. It is like the false association people make between spirituality and poverty. One need not be poor and struggling because one has and uses spiritual gifts nor must one give away for free professional services such as readings, consultations coaching etc. Those are warped concepts coming form people with small minds and selfish greedy hearts who want something for nothing and in truth, do not value your service. Now, getting back to romance.....the fact is, romance can be deliciously sumptuous and luxurious.
RICH ROMANCE: That is the phrase we came up with for her and so now she is looking for images to represent rich romance. Luxurious beds, thick soft his and hers robes, a man feeding a woman as she lays back on silk sheets. Romance can be feeding each other whole strawberries dipped in hot melted chocolate, a couples cruise on the Mediterranean, skiing together in Aspen for the weekend, a picnic in the park, taking a year of tango lessons together, being given a bouquet of flowers.
Treating you like his football buddy and expecting you to "hang out" with him is lazy and unromantic. A man spends his money on the people and things he finds valuable. Ask any man. If he wants to see a live sports event, even though his team might lose, he does what he must to get a ticket. Are you less valuable than a football game?
Romance is not a cheap thing. Romance shows intention, focus and consideration. Romance is soft, velvet, warm to hot, exciting, delicious, passionate, adventurous, loving, playful, kind, considerate.
You see, you can have (do or be) whatever you desire. You just need to let your mind's eye see it. Create that vision and go with it.
So, if you want romance in your life, there are examples out there for your Vision Board and for you to use as a springboard for your imagination. Start clipping and printing.
9 days until......
To your success!
Barrett
P.S. I am making myself available for those who are willing to invest in themselves and their success for 2010. I am ready to coach you in creating a life for yourself that is happy, fulfilling and abundant in every sense of the word. When you are ready to do this, send me an email and let’s get started.
Labels: Abundance, Coaching, Law of Attraction, Manifesting, Motivation, Vision Board